Dating an older man meant no beer pong or silly dancing, but it also meant security and commitment. I gave in and let him off the hook, and he was so grateful.
When I moved to New York right after college, finding a boyfriend was the last thing on my mind. I knew that if he knew I was 22 the conversation would soon be over, and I was enjoying it, despite myself. Two minutes later, I got a text."My name is Michael…in case you forgot." I had forgotten. "I didn't want to blurt out how old I was at dinner after you went on and on about what a big age difference eight years was. " Michael protested."You were supposed to say your real age, like I did! He was so different from the guys my age I 'd met in the city, eager for the drunk bar make-out but far less eager to have a girlfriend. I delayed taking him out with my friends, because I was worried he wouldn't fit in. We went to a dive bar in the Lower East Side with a bunch of my friends.
I'm in no way saying that a woman shouldn’t be able to take care of herself; it's that older men are most likely more financially stable than younger men, and therefore can offer you additional things those younger men can't.
By age 30, he probably has a solid career path and established goals.
He didn't notice, but an older guy next to me, slightly balding with a crooked nose, did. We'll see about that," he replied, handing me a shot. We continued to joke back and forth, and despite the fact that I'd just graduated from college and he probably had a decade ago, it seemed we had a lot in common. We stayed deep in conversation until last call, and eventually he asked for my number."You're way too old for me," I said. Before I knew it, we were well into dessert, and I realized I didn't want the dinner to end. My roommate and I would routinely go out and try and get guys to buy us drinks, a practice Michael was not entirely fond of.
I took it quickly and gagged while he slammed his without flinching. As we grinned at each other across the table (maybe it was just the buzz from the wine), I began to think that maybe eight years age difference wouldn't be so bad. In truth, my immaturity—and insecurity about his age—drove us to the verge of breaking up too many times to count.
"Our future isn't written in stone, so rather than worrying about the 13 years, I try and take it one day at a time.
Our generation has been the guinea pigs of modern dating.
We've Tindered and we've gone Plenty Of Fish-ing; we have utilized every kind of dating app, website and other obscure resource to find a partner. Here are seven reasons younger women should date older men: They've gone through college, lived the life of a party boy and have probably taken multiple trips to Vegas that are not to be spoken of, so they understand when you need a weekend to unwind and let loose with the girls.
Yet, I still hear from my fellow 20-something women that the men they've met lack a certain level of maturity that is desired. It's nearly impossible to shock them because if they haven't done something stupid themselves, they've definitely had a friend of a friend who’s done something even more insane.
The guys, crowded around, busy discussing finance, barely noticed me.