And eventually you have to shut off the phone or computer and must confront the fact that you can’t feel his arm around you as you drift off to sleep.
So in some ways I envy my parents who were far enough away from one another to form separate lives.
That unfortunately means more geographically-challenged relationships. They planned visits around their separate lives, probably in a Google Cal — another modern invention that’s made relationships simpler. A study from Cornell published in June found that couples in long-distance relationships feel more intimate with their partners than those who live in the same area.
A joke becomes a fight because the tone of a text is misinterpreted.
Long silences after arguments can’t be broken by reaching across the table and holding the person’s hand.
Of course there are ways technology has made long distance relationships much more manageable.
I can call my boyfriend every day without having to worry about massive phone bills.
If I want to see his face, we can use Skype or Google Hangout or Face Time.
If I want to know what articles he is reading, I can look at his Twitter. Though many have complained that they found it hard to empathize with the human-operating system relationship the movie depicts, I found the film all too real because it embodied the worst parts of a long distance relationship.From the little miscommunications that come from not being able to see your partner’s face to struggling to overcome the impossibility of physical intimacy to the panic that strikes when a call goes unanswered — they were all familiar problems.We watch movies and TV shows together, messaging each other “I told you so” when a plot twist is revealed or our favorite emoticons when the guy ends up with the right girl.(We were watching episodes of Sports Night simultaneously long before the New York Times dubbed the practice sync-watching.)It's unimaginable to me that my dad had to sit by a landline waiting for my mother to call him at a specified time when they were dating long distance.The international job market will test more and more relationships in the years to come, so the information from the Cornell study is heartening.