Fast forward six years: we were madly in love and engaged, then married.One year after that, my husband came home after work, sat down at the kitchen table, and told me he wanted a divorce. A few months after that, he was diagnosed with Bipolar 2, and our marriage was in for a hell of a ride.Every girl who is looking for her Prince Charming always envisions a tall, dark and handsome man.
If your conversations all end up somehow coming back to bipolar or your idea of a date night is group therapy, you might want to reconnect as just people who love each other, and drink some wine and watch bad TV together.10. It's up to you to educate yourself about this disease.
Get the support you need; it's up to them to accept and take responsibility for treatment.
Don't let your relationship become all about the illness.
Take note if you're paying more attention to the disease than the person.
I was 18 years old, pregnant, scared and lonely when I met my now-husband.
We became best friends, and two years later he married another woman and had a baby.
Some people with bipolar can be very proactive about their care, but this is usually after treatment has begun to help.
Part of what makes bipolar so scary is that it takes an enormous amount of work to manage, and "an enormous amount of work" is almost impossible for someone very ill with bipolar.
There are general parameters of symptoms, but they can vary wildly from person to person.2. Part of having bipolar can be what is called "anosognosia," a weird word for a simple idea: a mentally ill person who's unable to perceive that they are ill.
This means a huge part of bipolar is that, when your partner most needs help, they will be least likely to look for or accept it.
Ten years later, I published a book about our marriage, and have had a lot of sleepless nights and many lessons learned about loving someone with bipolar disorder. When your partner is diagnosed, you won't know what's coming.