I think you should proceed by telling him how you feel and seeing if you two can discuss your concerns and anxities about the relationship. From your question, it seems that, perhaps, you are a bit tepid about talking to him, but this is the moment do it, before you move in.
If you aren't ready to settle down, I'd be really honest with your girlfriend and where you are at, keeping in mind that there might not be a "better" relationship out there.
Also, what does a great relationship look like to you? _______________________ Florida: If you want marriage and kids, do not date someone more than two years after age 25. Love him, but maybe not in love -- not great chemistry, lots of little things that bother me.
She feels like b/c I'm not ready now, I'll never be b/c of the way I feel. Why not go for the partnership model where it's on both of you?
And is not being ready something to do with your age? I think you owe it to her to communicate why you don't feel ready and what would need to happen to get there. Instead, open up the flood gates of communications. C.: After almost a decade of dating, I am now turning 31 and am engaged and in a wonderful relationship. We were both equally into each other and into the long term goal of marriage.
Her work has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal and Forbes. My boyfriend and I just broke up after dating over a year.
For more information on Seligson, visit her Web site: Basically, we couldn't seem to move forward because he is recently divorced and essentially pulled away once I brought up thinking about getting married in a few years.
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Hannah Seligson: I think the prognosis depends on what you both want. Also, are you sure you want to be with someone who pulled away when you brought up the idea of getting married?
Saw many friends put in five-year stints with guys who "weren't ready" -- but then married the next girlfriend after a year. Not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I feel like I've invested so much time, and that bailing now would hurt us both tremendously. C.: Isn't pressuring your man to walk down the aisle a slack of faith in him? Is it fair that the guy gets to set the marriage timetable?