I am worried that he's not stable enough, though, and that the relationship won't stand a chance until he's really back on his feet (including finding a new job). I get the time has passed but your situation is interesting. One year sobriety in my book is strongly recommended. I mentioned this one evening as we were discussion his issues and recovery.
Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.
They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.
I've seen more relationships fail, in the rooms, than succeed.
But that doesn't mean it can't work-- as long as the partner has a good sense of self. I met someone who was addicted to marijuana and hashish, and also alcohol.
It can come as a surprise when you’re dating someone who reveals that he’s a recovering drug addict.
It goes without saying that he probably led a lifestyle that seems vastly different from the one he’s living with you.
Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough Just as important as assessing the recovering addict’s status is understanding your own. Does addiction strike a nerve with you, perhaps because there’s an addict in your family?
Although research has refuted outdated assumptions about addiction, surveys have shown that people judge addicts (even recovering ones) more harshly than people struggling with obesity, depression and even schizophrenia.
For instance, depending on the recovering addict’s particular needs, you may need to avoid drinking or using drugs around them or stop going to certain types of social events.
They may need to meet with a sponsor or attend support group meetings at inconvenient times and your support in encouraging them to do so is essential.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.