Through many years of encountering these problems, I’ve identified five distinct types of control freak, each with a typical profile.
Online dating may have increased your chances of success, but it also increases the number of failures you’ll need to go through.
The silver lining, however, is that you can tip the scales in your favor. By knowing what to expect and how to prepare yourself for it.
The best part about online dating is that you have an exit strategy as well.
You can say goodbye at any time when you’re talking online.
You can opt not to give out your address and personal information.
Not having common friends is also an advantage because there’s no middle man to worry about.
These days, it’s almost de rigueur to be described as a control freak: Gordon Brown, Tony Blair and David Cameron have all been called one, while the usual celebrity suspects, such as Madonna, Katie Price and Mariah Carey, seem to wear the label as a badge of honour.
It is a term used almost flippantly, as if it is a character trait that needs to be tolerated but is essentially harmless.
He gets into angry confrontations, behaves aggressively or is constantly vigilant for signs that you’re ‘siding’ with others.
He controls you by dictating who you can speak to or by being overly clingy and needing constant reassurance.
Often the presenting issue isn’t about control at all, but anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.