They don’t want to be taken advantage of financially or wonder if her feelings are genuine.Call me naïve or a hopeless romantic, but I’m betting that most of these supposed Park Avenue Princesses aren’t really screening their men for money.If you are concerned about this and want to find out, here are some ideas to accomplish this and protect yourself before it is too late.
“Gold Digger” is a crass label no one wants, but after interviewing 1,000 single men, I discovered it’s being applied to women more often than they think (and often unfairly).
David, age 37 from Long Island, NY, described his recent date this way: “She was looking for a ‘Perfect 10:’ the guy who’s a 5 on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank.” As a dating coach and matchmaker, I’ve spent the past ten years conducting some unconventional dating research using an “exit interview” tactic I learned at Harvard Business School and applied to the dating world.
“Include a recent photo (recent meaning within the last 12 months).
Ten years ago when you were a body builder is fine to remember fondly but sooner or later you’ll have to ’fess up.” Subscribers are asked to list their favourite animal, favourite restaurant, their most memorable experience and where they would like to be in five years’ time.
Paul, a 24-year old in Seattle, WA, is upfront during his dates about being unemployed.
But women get confused when he takes them to expensive restaurants.
Sometimes I’ll let it slip (falsely) that I owe five months of back-rent or I maxed out my credit cards, just to test how fast they’ll look at their watches and calculate when they can politely go home.” Men – both rich and poor– know that money is a factor on the dating circuit.
But like a bad country western song, they just want to be loved for who they are.
So they slip in proxy questions like ‘Does your company give you stock options? George, a 48-year old from Los Angeles, CA, says it’s very hard to find sincere women in L.
A.: “I actually own two cars—a Prius and a Corvette– but I purposely drive my Prius on a first date to fend off the gold diggers.” 3) What does your dad do?
also made sure never to date the same guy twice, except for an engineer at Apple who we’ll get to later.