Some commentators credit it with helping singles feel more secure and confident, while others blame it for “ruining romance,” “killing commitment” and contributing to the rise of the hook-up culture. While women generally prefer men around their own age, men are most attracted to 20-year-olds, period.As the head of Ok Cupid, I worked diligently to untangle many of the misconceptions about finding love on the Internet. That’s why the Daily Mail calls straight women over 45 the “plankton generation” — at the bottom of the romantic food chain.
After all, the best way to beat long odds is to take lots of chances, and even for older users, dating sites provide millions of romantic options.
It’s an all-too-common trope: Online dating has made casual sex easy but relationships hard.
And despite enjoying a handful of dates, 24-year old Patricia B.
feels that online dating is "a little bit like picking someone out of a catalog.
One somewhat hysterical Vanity Fair article recently claimed that sites like Tinder have brought on a “dating apocalypse,” with young men and women meeting online, getting together for sex, then never talking again.
The Guardian warns that these sites have created a “throwaway dating culture.” This is silly.
People have always sought out casual sex — flings are key plot points in “Pride and Prejudice” (1813) and “The Fires of Autumn” (1942).
One sociologist found that college-age students are having no more sex today than they were in 1988.
Time magazine editors found the notion of men dating women in their 30s so baffling that they invited 15 experts to explain the phenomenon.
But as I learned at Ok Cupid, men don’t necessarily end up dating young women, even if they think they’re gorgeous.
Gwendolyn Seidman, writing in Psychology Today, explains it well: “Online daters realize that while, on the one hand, they want to make the best possible impression in their profile, on the other hand, if they do want to pursue an offline relationship, they can’t begin it with outright falsehoods that will quickly be revealed for what they are.” That’s not to say every profile is the gospel truth, of course. Ok Cupid has found, for example, that men and women more or less uniformly add two inches to their height.