Dates that made me cringe in the moment—and then continue to cringe for days afterward.
I was tired of dipping my toe into the miasma of online dating.
Thou Shalt Honor Thy Dating Commitments When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc.
However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don't have time to share an entire meal with him.
The experience feels a lot like a friend helping you out. There's a lot of disappointment out there in the dating world—digital and otherwise.
But using a matchmaker made it a little less painful for me.
If he asks you out for the weekend on Thursday or later, the ladylike thing to do is to schedule no more than Sunday brunch with him.
Or if he really needs to be taught a lesson, schedule a Monday night dinner.
Which is why, when I heard about a friend who tried a matchmaker (yes, an actual, kind-you-see-in-movies matchmaker), I thought, "What the hell?
"After asking around, I decided to use a Toronto-based service called Six Degrees Introductions founded by self-proclaimed matchmaker Julie Ritchie.
For me, the big two were smoking and having an acrimonious relationship with an ex partner; both are personal red flags.