The older women at my church love to tell me the stories of how they or their mothers didn’t remarry until their children graduated from high school. Besides, I know how serious marriage is and what it takes to keep it together, especially during the tough times. ” As I reflect on the woman I’ve become after surviving such a devastating blow, what man wouldn’t want me with all of this? Lauren Jones is an Itinerant Elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church (AME) and serves in the Washington, DC metropolitan area.
She blogs at about her adventures as a mother and minister.
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In your book, you said that if a guy isn’t seeing you more than once a week by the 3 months point, he probably isn’t interested in a serious relationship.
My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?
I have not “lost” the guy I’ve been dating for the past 3 months, but I need to fix some of the mistakes I was starting to make. and 1 in Oct.) when we saw each other on Saturday and Sunday (but no sleepover) we have only seen each other once a week.
He’s a recent widower (wife died of cancer in June 2010.) We started dating just after Labor Day. We live about an hour and 1/2 apart and he has a very high level job and a big house to take care of (and a dog.) There has been no sex yet but lots of “foreplay.” He says he always waits to have sex until he’s more sure of the woman.
And as a result, I have arrived at a place where I’m comfortable acknowledging that I again need male companionship, that I’m ready for some conversation that doesn’t involve the characters on “Sesame Street.” Having been raised by a single mother, I’m familiar with some of the cardinal dating rules. Don’t introduce him to the children until it is serious. Will I find a man who loves me — stretch marks and all — and who loves my children? I have no plans to put our wedding album or video into storage.
I worry about whether another man will be able to handle that. My son is too young to remember his father, and my daughter has never known what it’s like to have a daddy.He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.I want to be sure that I am getting my needs met and that I’m not just a “rebound” for him. Dear Karen, One thing I know about widowers, followed by two things I know about men.Widowers are QUICK to rebound, to a point of being unseemly.The guy’s been married for 30 years, his wife dies in June and he started dating online 2 months later?So when a woman survives her husband, she’s got a circle of friends from the neighborhood, from work, from her card game, from her book club, from her salsa classes. Regardless, he dictates the terms of the relationship based on HIS needs and schedule. To his credit, he’s taking things slow, to avoid diving into another serious relationship that he may end up regretting.